How to take care of your daughter while you are working? How to balance your work from your relationship with your child?
Like I said I’m a working mom, I have a part-time online job and an office job. Since Pandemic our Company chose to lessen our employees work to be able to survive and that includes me. Before, I work eight hours a day and 6 days a week. But now it’s 8 hours a day and 3 days a week, so it’s half of my regular working days meaning I will receive only half of my salary too. That’s why I ended up looking for an online job and luckily I got one even I don’t have any experience. Just read my article about it here How to Apply and Get Hired in Onlinejob.ph even Without Experience?.
What is our setup for taking care of our daughter? Last 2019, we bought a tricycle with the franchise so that we can use it for business transport. My husband is a driver personally so that we don’t need to pay for a driver's salary. He’s the one who sending me to work from home and getting me from work to home. If there's no work in the office he’s using the tricycle as public transport to earn some money. But because of the Pandemic, the transport business is not as good as before because people choose to stay at home for their safety.
If I’m going to the office we leave our daughter in our parent's house. For three days they are going to take care of my daughter. We are checking her (our daughter ) after work in messenger. Make sure to always say your good morning and good night even it’s just on zoom or in messenger. Have a conversation with her on what activities she did for a day. Even your not with them physically let them feel that you are always there for them. After working for three days we will get her from my mom’s house and we are going back to our own home. Since my online job is at PST time because my boss was living in the USA, I work for him from 2am to 6am and it’s 5days a week ( Monday to Friday ) my daughter is sleeping most of that time but sometimes when she suddenly wakes up and she feels that I’m not with her she will immediately go on my working area. I told her I have another job to earn more to buy her toys, dress, and food and I told her that half of the day in the morning I need to get some more sleep because of my work at midnight. I think she understands it well. My husband is the one who taking care of her in the morning, giving her milk, and preparing for breakfast. They will be going to play after or sometimes watching youtube in cellphone but just beware because too much radiation for kids is bad so just let her watch for a while and then playing her toys. Sometimes she's going outside to play with her friend and we will make sure that we are in there in the area. We cannot let the safety of our child be overlooking. We don’t know what will happen when we are not around, we cannot tell. At 10am or 11am I will leave my bed and It’s now my duty to taking care of her. I’m more reliable than my husband in times of playing. I can be a monkey, a dog, a cat, whatever just to make fun. I think my daughter doesn’t want to learn a lesson in school, she can be an artist anyway. Silly me, but I teach her alphabet and numbers too but she is always tired once we are going to start.
Once I’m in the middle of cooking for our lunch or dinner, preparing our meal I’ll make sure she’s one step away from where I can see what she's doing, even if there’s I need to do for work or even in a time like this, writing my article.
It’s not the same every day, sometimes I know I’ve been bad to her because I’m not doing what she is asking for, most of the time it’s because of work, stress, and a Pandemic thing. I know I’m not a perfect mother. But If I made mistake I will make sure to get even with her by buying her toys, but material things are not what my daughter needs, and I knew that. It felt sad if I cannot attend to her needs, It feels sad if she’s away because we leave her at my parent’s house. It felt incomplete as a mother if you are not there for her at her down and even happy moments of her life. There are times that I’m not with her when she’s sick and I can’t leave my work. That’s the most hurt-felt moment of the life of being a working mom. But If she’s the one who made a mistake I talk to her and explain what she did and it is wrong so that she will understand and she will not do it again.
There’s always a reward and a consequence for everything and it’s good to apply with your child as a discipline or in a good manner. Ask them what they like the most and by doing this and that like having good grades, cleaning the room, washing the dishes, etc. You will give it to them. Explain it as a reward perspective and not the other way around like “under the table” or something that might lose the essence of your good motive which is to discipline them and to teach them good manners and right conduct.
I really wanted to completely stay at home, if given the opportunity not to work at all but I know we can’t do that now but I’m still looking for the best way for me to be able to stay with my daughter every day. And hopefully, I will succeed this time.
We, mothers, especially working moms have a different way of taking care of our children, whatever it is I know we are on the same page of loving them unconditionally. Sometimes it’s really exhausting, sometimes it’s tiring but after the day you will realize that it is all worth it. Just do whatever it takes for them and don’t give up on the taught that one day you don’t need to leave them for work, that one day you will be there for them all the time.
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