Is 30 Years Old, The Best Age to Get Married?

What is the right age to get married?

How old are you right now? Thirty-plus and still no boyfriend or a serious relationship that you can consider as your forever? Are you afraid of being single at your age? Is 30 years old, the best age to get married?

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Listen, At 30’s I got married. I can’t say I’m happily married nor I’m sad. But one thing is for sure, I’m more than happy when I’m single (funny) but somehow it’s true. I’m not regretting my decision in getting married, I had a lovely daughter. Having her is the happiest thing happening in my marriage. Then, Why I said that it’s more than happy when I’m single? It is because I’m more financially secure at that time, I can buy everything I want because I had a job. I can do anything without asking permission, without thinking what others think of what I’m going to do. I’m free like a bird, flying in the sky, like a person without worries at all. Now, I’m more focused on my family, my husband, and my daughter, there’s a lot of worries, there’s a lot of what if’s. I need to work harder than before especially now there’s a Pandemic, life is too hard. I know it’s not only me who suffers, everyone suffered from it, everyone is affected.

Before, when I’m single because of having a nice paying job and I do an extra job as a sideline, I earned a lot, I even saved more than a hundred thousand for years. I thought with that amount I’m ready to get married. And maybe like you, if you are afraid that you might stay single forever, I also felt that before and I don’t want that to happen. I wanted to have a child, a family that will take care of me when I’m getting old. And that’s what I did. At the moment I can say that I’m not happy. Who will be going to be happy when you are always worrying about where you can get money to pay your bills? Who will be going to be happy knowing that you are not ready financially if something happens? I can say we are not financially secured when we get married. For five years, all our savings are gone. But I know it’s just because of the Pandemic we are experiencing right now, I have this feeling that after a month or two after the Pandemic issue, all will be well for me, for us. I know we should not rely on our happiness to money matters. But accept the fact that we need money to sustain our life. We Filipino like the saying “Kahit walang pera basta masaya ang Pamilya”. But how can you be happy if your family, your child don’t have anything to eat. How can you be happy that every night you heard their empty stomach crumpling? How can you be happy if every day you are worrying about what will happen the next day?

With all of this happening in my life, I may conclude that you can marry at any age as long your financially ready. When you have a house when you have anything you wanted when you planning your married life to be. Don’t rely on your partner. Rely on your own capability so that if anything happens you are ready. And also be emotionally ready. Be strong and always be considerate, have more patience, understand your partner more. Don’t fight if he's angry because it will cause more complications. And ready yourself to accept anything that you don’t know yet about your partner. There’s a big difference between being boyfriend and girlfriend and husband and wife, a big difference.

There’s a thing I learned about loving someone. Love is just at the beginning of the relationship, after a year or years that love will be gone but it’s you as a person who will decide what to do next, you need to choose to stay and accept him or you will leave him. That’s why there’s a separation happen in a marriage but it’s a process once you find the one again, after years that love will be gone again, and that process repeats until you will learn to choose and to accept. I mean relationship is about LOVE at first then decision-making to accept everything about your partner, decided to stay with him whatever happens in the future.

Married life is not easy but it’s a journey. It is part of our journey in life. It’s not always happy, sometimes there's an argument, most of the time it's tiring but just always ready yourself and always trust and respect your partner. Other than that, married life is a fulfilling moment in life especially when you had a little child smiling and hugging you when you are tired and stressed. Your child’s smile is really your best stress reliever.

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